Quiet night in #inspiredbybakeoff #kevinbaconcup
(Source: gwengold, via waspabi)
The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.
My grandad died last week. He was 91, and ‘he had a good innings’ as my dad said, but I still kind of thought he would live forever. He was stoic and intelligent and he meant a lot to our family. Anyway, it was really hard and sad.
Here’s a picture of him and my grandma on their wedding day.
Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial. What’s more, there’s an interestingly sexist assumption that often gets made about female fashion — namely, that it’s primarily intended to get male attention and male approval.
the process of getting ready.
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Todays my 26th birthday and I spent yesterday crying alone in bed, recovering from food poisoning.
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