“The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.”—(via cunicular)
“Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial. What’s more, there’s an interestingly sexist assumption that often gets made about female fashion — namely, that it’s primarily intended to get male attention and male approval.”—Fashion is a Feminist Issue: Greta Christina (via bossapplesaucesmelly)
Sometimes I think about all the things over the years that have been said to me (if you lost weight you’d be really pretty, only thin girls can wear that) or about me (she’s got an alright face…) or shouted about me in the street (you should put your dog on a leash) and I’m really thankful that I’ve come out the other side of 25 not hating myself.
And sometimes I think about how sometimes when I get a glimpse of my reflection in a window I have to concentrate really hard on not hating what I see and it makes me sad that I live in a society where girls are made to feel like their self worth is dependant on how sexually appealing they are.
I dunno, I’m just really glad that I found feminism and realised that it’s society that’s ugly and not me.
"should i buy a news paper? i have the cnn app? does that count? should i buy a coffee maker? it will probably save me a lot of money? but then i have to buy coffee beans? i dont know shit about coffee beans! should i act like i’m reading this bottle of wine for a few minutes before i head straight to the discount vodka section? should i go to the supermarket and buy broccoli? i fucking hate broccoli did i just get invited to a fucking dinner party .. …what do you bring to a dinner party???? TAX SEASON SHOTS FOR EVERYONE! wakes up staring at a ceiling that is not my own ..did i just burn toast? how did i make it this far in life without fucking DYIGN i’m so DUMB and sTUPD and i cant do anyhtign right.. yeah hey mom yeah i’m fine how are you"
i’m quitting smoking today because i’m a grown ass woman who needs to use my lungs. i’m wearing a nicotine patch and everything. To be honest though, if I fail I’m probably going to lie and say that I didn’t, because this is the internet.